Don’t apologize because I’m single.

(Read below for a rant)

I was out last night for a bachelorette party and was frequently asked “are you engaged or dating anyone?” I’m not so I’d reply “no, I’m single.” Every single person apologized. Seriously. Some then asked me if I’d tried online dating. One girl, upon hearing me answer “I’m single” gave me a long hug while scolding the person who asked me the question. As I sit here in the late afternoon scrolling through pictures of the fun night and willing myself to get out of bed I’m still feeling baffled by the responses.

Is being 30ish and single really something to apologize for? Should I be more concerned that I’m single? Should I be concerned that I’m not concerned about finding a husband?

Maybe since I don’t want children I don’t hear that ticking clock or feel the need to walk around with a neon “husband wanted” sign flashing above my head.

Maybe the men in my life set my standards too high.

Maybe having sisters unashamed of living “out of the box” is inspiring.

Maybe growing up surrounded by strong women influenced me more than I know.

Maybe having incredible friends who never let who they were with define who they are taught me valuable lessons.

Maybe I’m lucky to have been raised by parents who placed importance on independence and confidence.

Maybe others aren’t as concerned with the responses to “I’m single” as I am.

I hope they are. I for one won’t be apologizing to the single people out there. The status of your relationship isn’t something to pity. It’s just something you post on Facebook.

#idontknow